Last Sunday, my best friend sms'ed me.
She was being paranoid. Her husband wos working out of town for 2 days, and his cellphone went dead. Tried to reach him several times, but didn't work out.
So, when he got home, she threw those - you know - words that you couldn't have imagine to say to your love ones. He, as I expected, was furious and didn't even bother to say anything to my broken hearted friend.
The next day, I told her to knock it off. I told her to talk to her husband. Try to figure out what went wrong with his cellphone. She did took my opinion, and she asked him. Beyond my expectations, he told her that he went off dinner with his boss, and didn't bother to bring the cellphone, either to tell my friend where he is, or what is he doing.
Today, the first thing in the morning, she sms me again. This time, she told me that someone misscalled her cellphone. By curiousity, she asked her husband which came home late that night. Her husband just snapped at her and played Play Station. When she tried to see his cellphone, he snatch it back from her. My best friend cried. And went off to bed. In the morning, she found out that she had her period. After 5 years marriage, she hasn't been pregnant, although she wants it so much. Her husband didn't even bother to check his health to a doctor. My best friend did all she can to make him happy.
"All I want is for him to change. He doesn't have to be romantic, but am I wrong for asking just a little tenderness and caring? It has been years since we dated again. When I got the period today, I just want to die. I hate all this. I hate this marriage...."
I told her, don't ever change anyone you love... Love doesn't have to change anything. If your partner wants to change, then it is because your partner wants to change. Not by the name of love.
"Sometimes I just want him to touch my hair when we watch tv together, or just holding hands when we were at the mall... Am I wrong?"
I told her that it is not wrong. It has never been wrong to expect love and caring and tenderness. But if your partner has never been like that before, why are you expecting him to be like that now? She has known him for years, she ought to know him by now, that he will never be that "Sir Gallahad" she ever wanted him to be.
Then she told me that she got paranoid, afraid that his husband is having a taboo love. Well, I couldn't say anything... Just stood there, reading her sms... and smiles.
Typical women. Always wants to try to change her partners. That is always been the difference, right? Women changes her self to have something in return, while men... Well.. I dunno, do they change themselves to be someone better to impress a girl, or perhaps.. they change themselves because something called love...?
